12 Lessons in 12 Months: A Marriage Recap
Happy FRIYAY! I am so happy its the end of another awesome week. It’s coming on the end of the week which means my wedding anniversary is inching closer and closer. Almost an entire year has gone by with the love of my life. That is absolutely insane. It has been, truthfully, the fastest year. A little recap for those of you new around here. In the last year, my cute husband and I have: 1. Gotten married. 2. Cruised around the caribbean. 3. Graduated college. 4. Moved all the way across the country. 5. Gotten big kid jobs. Safe to say, life has been pretty busy for us. Somehow, in the midst of all this busyness, we have found time to fall in more in love. Here is our 12 Lessons in 12 Months: A Marriage Recap.
12 Lessons in 12 Months: A Marriage Recap
Lesson 1: Be Each Other’s Best Friend.
Adam is my favorite person. We tell each other everything, and have since we first started dating. I get excited to just sit on the couch and hold his hand. Exploring new places with him is an adventure. When I wake up next to him in the morning, I get butterflies. Life isn’t always a fairytale (we do have our share of fights), but it is a fairytale a lot of the time when you are besties. 😉
Lesson 2: Fight fair.
And on the topic of fighting….here we go. Fighting as a married couple is NORMAL. When you mesh two lives together, there are bound to be disagreements. That DOESN’T give you a right to be vicious when you do have an argument. Adam and I learned very quickly that being nasty doesn’t get you anywhere. Even when we are mad, we still respect each other. Lucky for us, we make up very quickly. Fight fairly and be the first to say sorry.
Lesson 3: Date often.
We both know this will come in handy more often when we have children and it isn’t as easy to just pick up and go out. But by establishing this habit now, we hope that once we do have children, we will be able to continue with our date nights. Setting aside time every other week at least gives us a chance to put our phones away and spend time actually talking to each other.
Lesson 4: Laugh about it now, instead of later.
You know the phrase, “you’ll laugh about this later” when it is about something TOTALLY unfunny? Well, we prefer to laugh now. Even when it feels totally unfunny. We don’t like staying mad (we never are for long), so instead of holding grudges, we take a deep breath and LAUGH. Whatever it is that was making us so angry in the first place usually isn’t bad enough to stay upset for long, anyways.
Lesson 5: Support each other no matter what.
Adam and I have this terrible habit of being unfalteringly loyal. We want more than anything to make the other as happy as humanly possible and we both think each other deserves the whole world. But, sometimes marriage means deciding which one of you gets to go for something first. Adam is SO supportive of B&A and the countless other business ideas that I pitch to him on a daily basis.
Lesson 6: Budgeting is important.
Especially when you want to travel, buy a house, pay rent and countless other money sucking activities. Luckily, Adam and I are pretty good with our money. We are able to have a fairly good savings account and make wise decisions when it comes to budgeting. That puts less stress on our marriage and I’m really thankful for that. It doesn’t mean it will always be that way, but we are building tools for our future.
My wife’s love language is gifts. They don’t have to be bought or fancy gifts, but little gifts are a great way I know to show her that I love her. Whether it’s a new book, flowers, candy, or a little dinosaur shaped phone holder. My love language isn’t gifts but taking the time to learn and love her in her own special way helped my love for her grow even more.
Well, there you have it friends. 12 Lessons in 12 Months. A year in review about the things we discovered being married for 365 days. It’s been absolutely amazing. We are more in love than ever and I can’t believe that it is possible to love another human as much as I love Adam. I consider myself incredibly lucky to have gotten stuck with the world’s best human for eternity.