10 Things Women Who Value Their Self Worth Do Differently

Happy Tuesday, friends! I am so excited that it’s April because it’s my anniversary month!! In just 6 days, I will have been married for two years to the love of my life. I am SO blessed. But – more on than later this month. TODAY we are discussing habits of strong, independent women: 10 things that women who value their self worth do DIFFERENTLY and how you can adopt some of these habits into your own life. Self worth and self care is so important to me (and should be to you, too!) and I realized there are things that women I look up to, women who clearly value their self worth, do differently in their lives. I listen to their podcasts, I read their blogs, I follow their instagrams. And now I am starting to take on some of these habits to build my self confidence and change my life one step at a time. I want you to take this challenge with me! Read on to find out 10 things women who value their self worth do differently.

10 Things Women Who Value Their Self Worth Do Differently

Confident women don’t analyze whether or not people like them – they automatically just assume they do!

This is a big one for me. I had to learn this the hard way in college. I wanted every roommate, every teacher and every person basically, to love me right away. I spent hours analyzing body language, off hand comments and particular looks trying to discern whether or not somebody liked me. That’s EXHAUSTING. Instead of doing that – just assume everyone does and go about your business. Less stress and less focusing on something that doesn’t even matter in the long run.

10 Things Women Who Value Their Self Worth Do Differently

Women who value their self worth don’t stay in unhealthy relationships – platonically or romantically.

This goes for significant others and platonic friendships. It doesn’t matter what it is – if it doesn’t bring you joy, happiness and make you a better person, it isn’t worth it. I am one of those people who, growing up, was always the butt of the joke in the friend group (outside of my one dear bestie from high school with whom I am still best friends with today). Everyone was always laughing at my expense. But, if I brought this up with hurt feelings, I was “too sensitive” and “needed to learn to take a joke”. This followed me into college as well with roommates and friendships. It took until I met my “tribe” of women in the last few years to realize how important it is to surround yourself with people who lift you up instead of tearing you down. I have cut so many people out of my life recently because of this and I am so much lighter because of it.

TL;DR: Don’t let people treat you poorly. You set the precedence for how you will stand to be treated. You deserve to be treated with respect, kindness and love. Do not accept less than that. 

Confident women do not minimize their accomplishments – but stay humble.

This is a fine line because people will want to call you cocky. There is a big difference between confident and cocky (read my post about that difference here). You can be humble without being self deprecating. You deserve to be PROUD of your accomplishments and to talk about them openly. Do not minimize YOUR achievements to make others feel more comfortable, but do not put others down while doing it. 

Women who value themselves do not constantly seek reassurance – they are able to reassure themselves.

This is one that I work on every day. You need to be able to reassure yourself without relying on others to reassure you. Spending your whole life waiting for others to convince you that you are worthy – you will never find it. It’s wonderful to surround yourself with people who lift you up and inspire you but you should be working on yourself at the same time.

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Confident women recognize the difference they make in people’s lives and strive to make positive impacts on the world around them.

It is hard sometimes to see that what you are doing in the moment is making a difference or changing even one person’s life. Often, it isn’t until you look through the hindsight glasses and see something once it’s done that you realize how much of an impact it had. Try to recognize some of your impact while events are still happening and work hard to create a positive impact on the world around you in the things that you do.

Confident women are clear about boundaries and their values.

Alright, ladies, listen up: this one is very important. You need to decide your boundaries and values long before a situation comes up that tests them. You are in control of your life and what you decide to do, so having set boundaries and values right at the get go will make tough circumstances significantly easier in terms of deciding what to do. Be a force to be reckoned with. Don’t let people take advantage of you. You are only able to control yourself.

Women who value their self worth create goals and reward themselves when they achieve milestones.

You owe it to yourself to achieve your goals. Set good goals and then reward yourself when you reach them. I am not good at this. By the time I’ve reached a goal, I’ve already set a new one. I forget to reward myself for working hard and completing tough goals. So before making your new goals, CELEBRATE DANGIT. Buy yourself something nice, go out with your honey, throw a slumber party with your girls. Whatever it is – feel happy and successful for hitting those milestones, not matter how small they are.

10 Things Women Who Value Their Self Worth Do Differently

Women who value themselves understand their strengths and weaknesses.

The only way that we can grow and become better is to understand our strengths and weakness. We need to assess those things to reach our potential. Nobody has ever gained anything by denying they have weaknesses. We ALL have them. One of my favorite verses (Jacob 4:7 in the Book of Mormon) goes like this:

Nevertheless, the Lord God showeth us our weakness that we may know that it is by his grace, and his great condescensions unto the children of men, that we have power to do these things.

I believe that God has given us weaknesses that we may grow from it and become stronger when we conquer them.

Confident women learn from their mistakes – and own up to them on their own.

This goes hand in hand with the one above: you can’t get any further in life by not admitted to your mistakes. We all make them, that’s kind of like the motto of being a human. We are definitely not perfect. BUT if we become adept at realizing when we’ve made a mistake, owning up to it and working to rectify it, we will become stronger human beings and continually build our confidence in our skills and in our self worth.

Women who value their self worth constantly test their limits and try new things.

Trying new things can be absolutely terrifying but it is the only way we grow. If we stay put, we will never go any further than where we are right now. When you have a strong sense of self worth and confidence – you trust your ability to be able to try new things and succeed. Or at the very least: trust your ability to be able to try new things and fail with grace. 


10 Things Women Who Value Their Self Worth Do Differently

I hope these habits help guide you to become a stronger, more independent woman who knows her self worth and isn’t afraid to share it with the world. 

10 Things Women Who Value Their Self Worth Do Differently

Do you have any habits that would fit into this list? Let me know in the comments below!

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Taylor Mobley


  1. Lisa | amerytina | 3rd Apr 18

    This is so good, thanks for sharing these! We must value ourselves, I totally agree with all your points. For me, putting effort into my appearance (not for anyone but myself) always makes me feel more confident.

    • Taylor Mobley | 3rd Apr 18

      Yes! That always makes a difference for me too!

  2. sharon wu | 3rd Apr 18

    these are great reminders babe. self worth and love is so important! great post darling xo

  3. Tabitha Bradley-Raines | 3rd Apr 18

    I am so glad I read this today. I am still working at being more confident. I am still learning my weaknesses and strengths. I also struggle with rewarding myself after meeting a goal. I have so many goals at once that I will go from one to another and never look back or reward myself for it.

    • Taylor Mobley | 3rd Apr 18

      Yes me too on the rewarding part. I almost never reward myself for reaching goals because by the time I finish them, I’m onto something new. I’m glad this helped you out today. <3

  4. Jenny | 3rd Apr 18

    YES GIRL! I just love this post. SO on point.

  5. Crystal // Dreams, etc. | 3rd Apr 18

    This is great! All women should value themselves and these are such great reminders/ideas of ways to show that we do!

  6. Kileen | 3rd Apr 18

    I absolutely love this post. I think it is such an important topic as well, and a great reminder. All of these are extremely important traits!

    cute & little

  7. Erica @ Coming Up Roses | 4th Apr 18

    I really don’t think I could love this any more!!! You hit every nail on the end. Also I think we need to make t-shirts “dust settles. I don’t.”

  8. Deborah | 4th Apr 18

    Yes yes yes to all of this! I once heard the quote, “Confidence is not, ‘They WILL like me.’ Confidence is, ‘I’ll be okay if they don’t.'” This post reminded me of that.
    Also, I LOVE that “Dust settles” quote! I want that on a T-Shirt!

  9. Becky @ Disney in your Day | 4th Apr 18

    Some of these I feel I am good at, and some I know I am not! I need to get out of the mindset of constantly worrying if people like me and needing reassurance. On the other hand, I’m pretty good at being positive and knowing I’m making an impact on people. I also think being able to make mistakes and learn from them will be huge for everyone, but especially the upcoming generation of young women (and men!). I work with middle school students and they are TERRIFIED of ever making a mistake or being wrong. School and society has somehow drilled it into them that they have to be perfect. I am constantly trying to push them to be open to mistakes. I’m a children’s librarian so I don’t see them that often. But I’ll do trivia where I don’t expect them to know the answers. Sometimes they freak out – they refuse to even guess, even when it’s multiple choice because they could be wrong! That’s the sort of thing that I think needs to change.

    Sorry for the novel here, you just wrote a post that really got me thinking and is something I’m passionate about 🙂

    • Taylor Mobley | 4th Apr 18

      I totally agree! Thank you for your novel. You are so right. It’s OKAY to make mistakes!!!

  10. Kenzi || Life of a Sister | 4th Apr 18

    These are really amazing points. I know sometimes I look for reassurance from other places than myself. I really like this post, I am bookmarking it to look at when I need to remember to be confident.

  11. Denise Kokinis | 5th Apr 18

    Oh I really love this! I think we have all fallen into some of these holes at some point, but I love being reminded about them and learning from them. I think experiencing some of them leads to growth! Loved reading this!

    Denise | Fashion Love Letters

  12. Julia Comil | 7th Apr 18

    Great tips to value ourselves

  13. Gita | 11th Apr 18

    Love these tips, esp the part about learning from your mistakes

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