How To Make Couple Friends (+ Why It’s Important)

Happy FRI-YAYYYYYY. I’m so happy that it’s the end of the week (aka one week closer to NYFW with my blogging bestie, Erica). My kittens are still getting along SO well, and my heart is SO happy. Today’s post is one I’ve been sitting on for a while because it’s so important to me and my hubby. I wanted to make sure I did it total justice. 🙂 AnyWHO let’s dive into why it’s important to make couple friends and how you can do it, too. 


How To Make Couple Friends (+ Why It’s Important)

So. I have always had a circle of tight nit friends. In high school, I had my very best friend Chelsea (you can read about her and our friendship here) and our other great friend Jordan. We were three peas in a pod and I loved it. I loved having a close group of girls to confide in. In college, I also had an awesome friend group, and we were friends all through college together. 

How To Make Couple Friends (+ Why It's Important)

Once Adam and I got married, however, it got a little harder to maintain friendships. Not even because of us, either! It turns out, single people don’t really love being the third wheel in a friendship. It wasn’t super difficult in college, because we already had a bunch of couples we enjoyed hanging out with, but after we graduated and moved away, it was pretty much only my parents that we hung out with. LOL (love you mom and dad).

As I work from home, and there aren’t many couples where A works, we had to look outside our jobs to find couples we wanted to befriend.

Here are my top tips to building friendships as a married couple:

Tip #1: Religion can often help.

If you are religious (we are), one way to make new friends is to meet them at church. You’re likely to find couples you really jive with this way, as you know you already share the same core values. It can ease some of that tension, and give you common ground to talk about in the beginning stages of a friendship. 

Tip #2: Ask people yourselves.

Chances are, you’ll get to know other people in your job. While I work from home, I still go out with girls like my photographer every now and again. I already know I like her, so I figured it may be a good time to ask if she and her husband/boyfriend/SO would like to get together for a double date! If you aren’t the one asking, chances are nobody else is going to. Be prepared to open up a little bit and put yourself out on a limb.

How To Make Couple Friends (+ Why It's Important)

Tip #3: Host a game night.

This is one of A and I’s favorite way to get to know people and have a fun night with friends. We just hosted our first game night last week and it was a total blast. Most people LOVE board games and it is the perfect way to break the ice and enjoy yourself with friendly competition and laughter. We always do it pot-luck style where everyone brings a dessert or appetizer and you have a bunch of yummy snacks to choose from! Invite neighbors, co-workers or acquaintances — you never know who may end up being the perfect “couple fit” for you and your SO.

Tip #4: Follow up but be cool about it.

You don’t want to seem desperate, so even if you had the best time ever, don’t immediately invite them over the next night. It’s literally like dating only four people have to get along instead of two. Be sure to send a nice follow up text the next day to let them know how much fun you had, and that you’d like to do it again sometime. That opens the door for more plans to be made in the future.

Tip #5: Volunteer for something.

This is actually a great way to meet people — and it’s similar to the church aspect in that you already have a commonality. You both are passionate about a certain cause, so it helps to bring the two couples together. It can make for a great base to start a friendship off on, and it will give you built-in activities to do together. Chances are, you’ll become closer than ever when you work on important projects as a group.

How To Make Couple Friends (+ Why It's Important)

So now that you know HOW to make friends as an adult…why is it so important to maintain those friendships? Once you have your SO, why on earth would you need anyone else?

Ok, fair point, I definitely love A more than anyone else in the world. BUT. I still need other interaction, and so does he. Going out with another couple gives you more to chat about, and it is nice finding two people you can both get along with. 

Not only is it just a good time in general, psychology says you need it, too. If you can find a couple that is going through the same life situations you are, even better. Another couple understands your need to bring your +1 around, and they appreciate it! You no longer have to choose between a girl’s night out or a night in with your sweetie, it’s all one in the same. That means more fun and entertainment and less stress over disappointing someone you love. You can spend time with your friends, and still nurture your relationship with your spouse.

How To Make Couple Friends (+ Why It's Important)

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Have you gone through similar life changes with your SO, where you needed to branch out and make more friends as a couple? How did you cope with it? Let me know in the comments below!!

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15 COMMENTS

  1. Kim | 25th Aug 17

    My husband and I finally made some really cool couple friends. It has made a huge difference in how much we enjoy our city.

  2. Mala | 25th Aug 17

    This is a very interesting post.

    All of closest friends are single. And now that my son is in PreK, I have finally begun making “mommy friends.” I will give your tips a try.

  3. lauren | 25th Aug 17

    Making couple friends definitely can be hard! A lot of our friends are originally our close friends + their spouses because we’ve all seen each other so often over the past 5 years – we’ve been on the wedding-baby shower loop in life. Or we both have cousins close in age and see them often as well! This is a great list for anything that just moved to a new area or may not know where to start, love it!

  4. Monica | 25th Aug 17

    Making couple friends is hard! My husband and I often joke that we “date” other couples, bc it seems like both couples are trying to decide if a second double date is a good idea! 🙂

  5. Beth | 25th Aug 17

    These are great tips for making couple friends. I think when you’ve been married for a while, you might be pleasantly surprised at how many single friends will be happy to hang out with you!

  6. Jenny | 25th Aug 17

    We love game nights as well! So much fun.

  7. Joy | 25th Aug 17

    I love this post! It’s so important as adults to keep lasting friendships and also build new ones that fit into your new life. I hadn’t thought of hosting a game night but I really like that idea. I’m going to have to try that out!

    Joy
    http://www.basicallyjoy.com/

  8. Mistle | 25th Aug 17

    Having couple friends is key! It’s nice to be able to go to dinner, movies,etc with couples that you have a lot in common with. These are great tips girl!

  9. Meagan | 25th Aug 17

    These are all great tips! Finding friends at work and friends who share similar extracurricular activities have been the best for us, for sure.

  10. Patricia @ Grab a Plate | 25th Aug 17

    I like your “follow up but be cool” tip! That made me laugh! You’re so right – it’s not easy to make couples friends when you work from home! Great suggestions!

  11. April@LoveOurRealLife | 25th Aug 17

    I think couple friends are so important if you are married. My husband and I met several other couples when we first got married in our “young married” bible study group. I was new to the area and it was a great way to connect with other girls, but be with my new husband as well. Love this!

  12. Hanna | 26th Aug 17

    Our lives complexity changed once we started making friends that were also married/living together! It really is super important for all these reasons above!

  13. Michael @ Super Millennial | 26th Aug 17

    These are all great tips, we’ve made new ones this year and it’s been great to meet new people and have travel buddies!

  14. Cameron - Diary of a Southern Millennial | 27th Aug 17

    These are such great idea! My fiance and I have so much trouble finding couple friends – we’re right at that age where everyone is still single or just settling in to a relationship, and combined with his restaurant work schedule, hanging out seems impossible! We definitely need to work at it!

  15. Erica @ Coming Up Roses | 28th Aug 17

    But what happens when your besties live halfway across the country?? Game night soon, mk?

    Coming Up Roses

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