Happy FRI-YAY! I am so happy that it’s Friday. It was too cold this week for me to work out by the pool every day, but I did manage to go to yoga every single day! I’m trying to put myself and my mental + emotional health FIRST lately, because sometimes I forget to do that and I think a lot of people do, too. So, today I want to talk about how to find your confidence (and keep it) and inspire you to take a 20 day SELF-LOVE challenge. I know it isn’t the beginning of a new month, but I am a firm believer that it doesn’t have to be a new month to start something amazing for yourself. Let’s dive into it.
First things first: confidence. I’ve talked before about how silly it is that women seldom describe themselves as confident creatures (read that post here), but it’s been on my mind to talk about it again. Only this time, to give you a list of tried and true methods to find YOUR confidence and KEEP it.
Step One: Fake it ’til you make it.
Sometimes this is the best way to start a habit. The more you get into a routine, the more it’ll become real life. I know this because there have been SO many times that I didn’t feel NEARLY as confident as I came across. I have held my head high for so long, that I forget what it feels like to hang it down low. It’s a habit now. It takes 21 days to make a habit stay – so stick it out and see what happens.
Step Two: Manage your expectations.
This is a big one. Sometimes people build something up SO MUCH in their minds that when the real deal happens, they’re disappointed. That can cause someone’s confidence to take a huge plummet. Set goals, but be reasonable with your expectations. My husband likes to say be “cautiously optimistic”. I love that phrase.
Step Three: Realize that you are not everyone’s cup of tea.
I know several people (and you might be one of them) that are “people-pleasers”. This can be great when you are in charge of committees and being there for your friends, but it can be detrimental on your self-worth. You can’t fill someone’s cup when you are empty yourself. Take a deep breath and decide what YOU want and realize that it is OKAY if it isn’t what everyone else wants. Get comfortable with the fact that not everyone will like you.
You can\’t fill someone\’s cup when you are empty yourself. Take some time for YOU today.
Step Four: Dress for success.
This is the deal. When you dress better, you feel better. It’s a scientific fact. So if you are struggling with your confidence, try to examine where it might be coming from! If you are dressing down every day, try to dress up and see how you feel. It may be a classic case of boring clothes that have you down.
Step Five: Take a social media hiatus.
Now — I know I’m one to talk (aka I literally make a living off of being on social media). BUT. Sometimes you really, really need to take a break. Stop comparing yourself to the girls on Instagram with perfect smiles and Onstagram worthy donuts. It’s okay if life doesn’t look like that all the time. Sometimes it’s just life.
I hope this helps you pretty ladies, if you are struggling with your confidence. Put your best foot forward, take this 20 day self-love challenge, and remember you are AWESOME.
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