Happy FRIYAY. I am so happy it’s the end of another week. I can’t believe it’s pretty much the end of July…where the heck did the month go? We are over halfway done with the year and my head is still spinning. Today’s post was inspired by the best relationships I have with my #besties. I don’t live nearby most of my close friends, so learning how to keep a friendship alive when you live ~800 miles away from each other is SUPER important. Let’s dive into it.
There are SO many articles on how to keep long distance relationships alive — but not quite as many on long distance friendships. I believe it’s JUST as important to be able to keep friendships going because we ALL need friends (and GOOD friends, too).
Way #1: Be the first to reach out.
Technology is amazing. You don’t even have to be on the phone or in person to tell a funny joke or a “remember when” story. If BOTH of you keep this mentality, you will have a REALLY good base for a friendship. Keep in mind — this doesn’t work if you are the only one utilizing this rule. My best friend from high school (we’re still best friends today — read our bff questionnaire here) and I have a good habit of texting each other first. It alternates back and forth between the two of us, so neither of us feels like we are always the first to talk to one another.
Way #2: Use Facebook for good.
I don’t LOVE Facebook most of the time (it’s gotten fairly negative), but one thing I do like is the fact that I can tag my friends in funny videos that make me think of them, memes that make us both laugh, pictures that describe our friendship, etc. I get tags daily from my girls that make me ROLL with laughter. It makes me feel THAT much closer to them.
Way #3: If there is more than two of you, GROUP CHATTTTTT.
I have a group chat going with 4 of my best friends and it’s the best thing that’s ever happened to us. Yes — my phone is constantly blowing up but since I’m USUALLY an active part of the situation I like it. It’s been amazing when one of us needs an immediate phone call for moral support, someone is always there, no matter what. We are funny together, and can bounce ideas off of each other.
Way #4: Google Hangout / FaceTime / Skype Sesh
I don’t care what your preferred form of video chat is, but whatever it is, DO IT. Once a week, I do a Google Hangout with a group of girlfriends and it’s SO amazing. I schedule it into my week so I don’t miss it. It makes us feel like we are all together. It’s an AWESOME way to keep yourselves close to one another.
Way #5: Snapchat
Some people really don’t like snapchat but I kind of love it. I can send little snippets of my day to my friends and it helps us keep each other in the loop with the little things you usually miss when you catch up only every so often. The face filters and voice filters are funny and we make each other laugh. It’s a great way to stay connected.
Way #6: Call each other when you are in the car.
When I’m stuck in the car for a long time, I make my rounds calling all my friends. If I let them know ahead of time when I’ll be driving, I know how long they can chat and it’s a good way for me to pass the time and at the same time, catch up with my favorite people!
Way #7: Pretend movie dates.
Make a time to sit down and watch the same movie at the same time. Put each other on FaceTime and start the movie at the same time. One of us usually mutes our end of the TV so we don’t hear an echo. Then we watch together! It’s like having a sleepover together all over again. Making time to do little things like this is CRUCIAL to keeping a long distance friendship alive.
Way #8: Write letters or send care packages.
Who doesn’t love getting mail? I know I do. And I know my friends do, too. I love writing little notes and sending them to my girls every so often. It makes us all feel like we are loved. One of my dear friends from college sent me a care package on a week I was feeling really crappy and it just COMPLETELY lifted my spirits. She wasn’t with me in person, but that little gesture to show how much she loved me was exactly what I needed.
Way #9: Don’t cancel your “dates”.
We know life gets busy. And obviously, some things need to be given some grace. However, try your best not to cancel when you make plans (movie nights, video chats, phone calls, etc). The easier it gets to cancel, the harder it will be to keep your friendship. Time differences can be hard, but try your BEST to make it a priority.
Way #10: DO NOT forget big life events.
Birthdays. Wedding anniversaries. Your friendaversary. Any day that is significant for them, should be significant for you, too. It doesn’t mean you have to always send a gift (money can be tight and everyone should understand that) but there is NO excuse not to call or even TEXT. Big days like these can mean a lot to people and if you are making your relationship a priority, then these days have to be a priority, too.
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I hope that this helped you learn some new ways to keep your friendships alive and well, even when you are long distance. It’s hard to make sure you keep friends when you can’t regularly go out to lunch, hang out at home or even just see a movie once a month. It was so easy in high school when Chelsea lived exactly 7 minutes (10 if I got stopped at the main stoplight) away. It was even easier in college when my best friends lived in my same apartment with me, in the same ROOM, even. It can be done — it’s just not as easy as it once was.
Let me know in the comments below if you have a long distance friend — and how you make it work for you!!