Happy Tuesday, friends! I am so excited that it’s April because it’s my anniversary month!! In just 6 days, I will have been married for two years to the love of my life. I am SO blessed. But – more on than later this month. TODAY we are discussing habits of strong, independent women: 10 things that women who value their self worth do DIFFERENTLY and how you can adopt some of these habits into your own life. Self worth and self care is so important to me (and should be to you, too!) and I realized there are things that women I look up to, women who clearly value their self worth, do differently in their lives. I listen to their podcasts, I read their blogs, I follow their instagrams. And now I am starting to take on some of these habits to build my self confidence and change my life one step at a time. I want you to take this challenge with me! Read on to find out 10 things women who value their self worth do differently.
This is a big one for me. I had to learn this the hard way in college. I wanted every roommate, every teacher and every person basically, to love me right away. I spent hours analyzing body language, off hand comments and particular looks trying to discern whether or not somebody liked me. That’s EXHAUSTING. Instead of doing that – just assume everyone does and go about your business. Less stress and less focusing on something that doesn’t even matter in the long run.
This goes for significant others and platonic friendships. It doesn’t matter what it is – if it doesn’t bring you joy, happiness and make you a better person, it isn’t worth it. I am one of those people who, growing up, was always the butt of the joke in the friend group (outside of my one dear bestie from high school with whom I am still best friends with today). Everyone was always laughing at my expense. But, if I brought this up with hurt feelings, I was “too sensitive” and “needed to learn to take a joke”. This followed me into college as well with roommates and friendships. It took until I met my “tribe” of women in the last few years to realize how important it is to surround yourself with people who lift you up instead of tearing you down. I have cut so many people out of my life recently because of this and I am so much lighter because of it.
Women who value their self worth don’t stay in unhealthy relationships – platonically or romantically.
TL;DR: Don’t let people treat you poorly. You set the precedence for how you will stand to be treated. You deserve to be treated with respect, kindness and love. Do not accept less than that.
This is a fine line because people will want to call you cocky. There is a big difference between confident and cocky (read my post about that difference here). You can be humble without being self deprecating. You deserve to be PROUD of your accomplishments and to talk about them openly. Do not minimize YOUR achievements to make others feel more comfortable, but do not put others down while doing it.
This is one that I work on every day. You need to be able to reassure yourself without relying on others to reassure you. Spending your whole life waiting for others to convince you that you are worthy – you will never find it. It’s wonderful to surround yourself with people who lift you up and inspire you but you should be working on yourself at the same time.
It is hard sometimes to see that what you are doing in the moment is making a difference or changing even one person’s life. Often, it isn’t until you look through the hindsight glasses and see something once it’s done that you realize how much of an impact it had. Try to recognize some of your impact while events are still happening and work hard to create a positive impact on the world around you in the things that you do.
Alright, ladies, listen up: this one is very important. You need to decide your boundaries and values long before a situation comes up that tests them. You are in control of your life and what you decide to do, so having set boundaries and values right at the get go will make tough circumstances significantly easier in terms of deciding what to do. Be a force to be reckoned with. Don’t let people take advantage of you. You are only able to control yourself.
Be a force to be reckoned with. Don’t let people take advantage of you. You are only able to control yourself.
You owe it to yourself to achieve your goals. Set good goals and then reward yourself when you reach them. I am not good at this. By the time I’ve reached a goal, I’ve already set a new one. I forget to reward myself for working hard and completing tough goals. So before making your new goals, CELEBRATE DANGIT. Buy yourself something nice, go out with your honey, throw a slumber party with your girls. Whatever it is – feel happy and successful for hitting those milestones, not matter how small they are.
Women who value their self worth create goals and reward themselves when they achieve milestones.
The only way that we can grow and become better is to understand our strengths and weakness. We need to assess those things to reach our potential. Nobody has ever gained anything by denying they have weaknesses. We ALL have them. One of my favorite verses (Jacob 4:7 in the Book of Mormon) goes like this:
Nevertheless, the Lord God showeth us our weakness that we may know that it is by his grace, and his great condescensions unto the children of men, that we have power to do these things.
I believe that God has given us weaknesses that we may grow from it and become stronger when we conquer them.
This goes hand in hand with the one above: you can’t get any further in life by not admitted to your mistakes. We all make them, that’s kind of like the motto of being a human. We are definitely not perfect. BUT if we become adept at realizing when we’ve made a mistake, owning up to it and working to rectify it, we will become stronger human beings and continually build our confidence in our skills and in our self worth.
Trying new things can be absolutely terrifying but it is the only way we grow. If we stay put, we will never go any further than where we are right now. When you have a strong sense of self worth and confidence – you trust your ability to be able to try new things and succeed. Or at the very least: trust your ability to be able to try new things and fail with grace.
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I hope these habits help guide you to become a stronger, more independent woman who knows her self worth and isn’t afraid to share it with the world.
Do you have any habits that would fit into this list? Let me know in the comments below!
Happy WEDNESDAY, everyone. And also happy last-day-of-February. March is ALMOST HERE, which…03 April 2018
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