Happy friday, dear friends. I hope the first week of January is ending spectacularly for you! I know I’ve had a great week relaxing with family and enjoying the 75 degree weather. I definitely did not pack appropriately for this trip (cue all my cute winter sweaters…). Today, I am writing about something that’s been on my mind lately! My husband and I have almost been married 9 months (though it honestly feels like much longer. I love this guy!), and we’ve learned a ton. We made a few resolutions together this year so that we can hold each other accountable and grow as partners. I’m going to be sharing our 10 resolutions for married couples (or significant others).
Adam and I share the same faith, and that means we put God first in our marriage. One of our resolutions is to pray every night together. We typically pray at dinner time like most, but we feel it is important to do it before bed. We keep saying we will do it, but keep forgetting. This year we are going to make it a habit that will follow us through the rest of our marriage.
It isn’t a secret that I hate cooking. I really do, and I’m only sub-par at it anyways. My poor husband is often left scrambling when it comes to dinner if we aren’t cooking together. Along with our goal to cut the junk food and eat better in general, we’d like to cook together and maybe find the *cough* joy?? *cough* that so many people have already found. Maybe I’ll finally discover why the vast majority of humans like cooking. It’s definitely more fun with my husband around.
We love dating. And yes, we still date. I love love love date nights with A and it’s not just because he cleans up so well in a sweater and jeans. Our resolution this year is to make sure we don’t get caught up in fancy new jobs, life near my family and other things that love to get in the way of marriage. Friday nights are to be reserved for T & A Date Nights from here on out!
Or — for everyone else, explore the city you live!!! We have just moved to St. Louis and the city is full of exciting things to do. We can’t wait to explore this new city together, finding new places to eat, new activities to do and maybe meet some new people along the way (how do married, adult, not-in-college people make friends again???). I have only been to St. Louis a few times, so I know there will be plenty to occupy us for the coming year. Regardless of where you live, I bet there are things that you haven’t done yet that you want to do. Make it a goal to explore and get out of your comfort zone.
I am queen of complaining, a habit I am actively trying to quit. Our pact to each other is to knock off the negative nancy chatter and start encouraging positivity in our everyday conversations. That doesn’t mean that you can’t vent your frustrations (because what are spouses for amiright?), but try to shift negatives to positives and figure out how you can change the situation. Be each other’s accountability partner in this attempt!
I am the luckiest wife in the world. Adam is kind, sweet, generous, loving…I could go on and on. But sometimes in the swift pace of life, I forget to tell him how much he means to me in all that he does for our little family. This year our goal is to make sure we remind each other of our appreciation for one another. We are growing together and this is one more way to strengthen that bond.
Just because you show love one way, doesn’t mean your spouse does. That can lead to miscommunication and feeling neglected, among other things. We haven’t really had a problem with this, but we know we can ALWAYS do better. Working on showing love the way the other person BEST perceives it is a great way to keep the romance alive from the get-go.
This isn’t always possible (depending on your work schedules). But A and I feel it is super important to do this as much as possible. When we get to bed at the same time, we can snuggle, giggle, talk about our days and whisper quietly to each other. I love that time of night. We can picture the future together and for some reason it seems sweeter when it’s at midnight.
Wait…but you thought this was a list of resolutions for couples, right? SO true. But part of being a couple is the two of you bringing a unique personality to the table. A and I are very different. We don’t have the same hobbies. It is important for us to be able to do some things on our own so we can be 100% together. We like to say we don’t complete each other, we compliment each other. We are two whole people entirely on our own, but we get to have the BEST partner. “Me-Time” can make both of us happier and more pleasant together.
We both have dreams for kids, home decorating, future jobs, etc. This year is our time to grow as a couple and establish those goals. We are redoing our home and learning how to meld two different styles together. That is SO fun. Making these goals and deciding on things together is one of my favorite things to do. Time to make that a serious priority.
My 10 Resolutions for Married Couples. I love that I married my best friend. We truly have one of the most wonderful relationships. I am SO LUCKY. But even so, that doesn’t mean there aren’t things we can be working on to grow and strengthen our marriage. Everyone can do that!
What resolutions did you make with your spouse this year? I’d love to hear them! Leave them in the comments below!